Many factors are affected by a woman’s desire to have sex: emotional attitude, satisfaction and relationships. Women may experience excitement, but do not want sex. This is completely normal, the sexopathologist believes. And tells how to turn excitation into a real desire.
It happened to you that at first there was no mood for sex, but then you managed to get excited? Perhaps you thought how normal it is. I hasten to reassure you: absolutely normal! This is especially common with women in long -term relationships – they are able to experience excitement and achieve orgasm, even if they were not originally in the mood for sex.
You may ask again: well, is it normal – excite, not experiencing desire? Doesn’t the lack of desire speak of any problems? In fact, in many cases, this may indicate some kind of dysfunction, but quite often the circular nature of the normal female sexual cycle is manifested so often.
What is the «sexual cycle»?
The sexual cycle is also called a cycle of sexual reactions. To begin with, we will determine what a «sexual reaction» is? This is the name of all the psychological and physiological reactions of our body during sex. Sexists-researchers William Masters, Virginia Johnson and Helen Kaplan have developed a model of the sexual cycle consisting of four stages.
1. Wish. This is a psychological component of the sexual cycle. Sexual desire is a feeling of psychological mood for sex. This includes sexual thoughts, fantasies and other psychological factors of excitement – the attractiveness of a partner, his smell, voice, familiar touch and affection.
2. Excitation. This is the physiological component of the cycle. Excitation is the reaction of the body showing its readiness for sexual intercourse. In addition to a physiological reaction, it also includes a sense of physical excitement. Signs of sexual arousal are, first of all, increased heart rate, increased blood pressure, increase in breathing, blood surgery to the genitals, erection in men, moisturizing the vagina, expansion of the uterus and increasing the clitoris in women.
3. Orgasm. This is the peak of the excitation phase. Respiratory rate, heartbeat and blood pressure increased sharply at the time of orgasm, and the accumulated tension is discharged by a series of muscle
contractions of the pelvis. In men, an orgasm is usually, although not always, accompanied by ejaculation. In some cases, ejaculation during orgasm is possible in women.
4. Rest. The body returns to normal state – the one as it was before sexual arousal. Sexual and reproductive organs (penis in men, clitoris, vagina and uterus in women) return to their usual sizes. The recreation phase in women lasts significantly less than in men, and they quickly become ready for repeated excitement. In men, it can last from several minutes to many hours, and during this period they are not able to get excited, even experiencing psychological sexual desire.